We often talk about emotional and social intelligence—and emotional and physical intimacy—without acknowledging that intimacy starts with an intelligent conversation, a verbal or nonverbal valentine.
Factoids: Our brains are designed to be social. Our need for belonging is more powerful than our need for safety. When we are rejected, we experience pain in the same centers in the brain and body as when we are in a car crash. Being emotionally orphaned is more painful than death. When others show us love, respect, and honor us, it triggers the same centers in the brain as when we eat chocolate, have sex, or are on drugs.